Many of us will have lost a friend, lover, or opportunity due to ego inside us.
Regulating our ego sometimes can be highly beneficial.
So we need to be awar of toxic ego and try to overcome it from our talk and behavior to lead a happy life.
How to keep your ego in check
It is hard to control the ego because it is impossible for many of us to recognise it. However, one can overcome it with correct thought process.
For this you need either of the three mentioned below.
1. Have Love and affection
- When you love someone genuinely like be it your parents, children or teachers etc., you tend to avoid ego in dealing with them.
- So develop love towards the person you wish to deal with to overcome ego.
- Even if you are right or in superior position, handling without ego help the situation better.
- It would not only brings desired results but also be helpful for your loved ones in the long run.
- Also, it is important remember that, persons keep changing with time and so those who seem good before might seem arogant now.
But, when you consider the situation with respect to stability and longterm betterment, it is better to avoid ego in dealing with loved ones.
2. Be sympathetic
- If dealing with subordinate or even your pet, you can cause significant damage out of anger as your ego will be hurt.
- In such a case, trying to understand their limitations can help you develop sympathy.
- If one is sympathetic, we tend to be soft and handle smoothly instead of being hard.
- This way you will be able to win them over.
3. Remember you are just a small entity.
- When we notice our solar system or galaxy, our earth look like a small pebble. Then we can imagine how insignificant we are interms of this universe.
- This way we can appreciate the creation and be humble instead of being egoistic.
- Many a times, people tend to deal with other due to ego and inturn cause unwanted pain and trouble to themselves and others.
This mostly turn into our bad karma which can affect us later. Hence, it is essential to overcome ego by simple thoughts.
4. Consider things are temporary.
- Many a times we get upset when ego is hurt.
- But when we look things rationally, most of the time, the situation or issues are temporary in this journey of life.
- Also, one situtation or issue will probably not damage the whole cenario of a situation in most cases.
- So, when we see that issues are temorary, we can better handle the with care instead of being hurry or rude tryin to cause further damage.
5. Meditate:
- Meditation helps one to observe thoughts and emotions without trying to react as per them.
- With regular practice, it helps to detach and shifting away from self centered focus and makes you blissful.
- This way, over time your will overcome ego and all together avoid it.
6. Social service:
- A selfless service helps you to be service without expecting anythin in return.
- This way, one can find peace and happiness which can help tide over ego and anger and perhaps develop forgiveness.
7. Ego softening kits.
Ego softening can be done using tools and resources like
- Meditation Practice Apps
- Mind-Body Tools
- Altered State of conciousness method
- Ego detox technique
Start with just 1 kit for now and follow it for 7 to 14 days. Ego softens slowly through inner alignment and not by force.
What happens due to excess ego
Loss of friends
- Friendships cannot sustain if the ego develops between friends.
- There are chances of misunderstandings between friends.
- If there is an ego between them, then the friendship will not last long.
Love failures
- This is an important issue where the duo, i.e., girl and boy, should avoid ego for the relationship to progress.
- Ego presence will break the relationship in most cases.
Clashes with others
- If you are in shopping or a conference or traffic, there are chances of some misunderstanding or adjustments like who has to move first or reverse back.
- Then if there is ego in between, there are chances of heated arguments and also clashes or fights.
- So controlling the ego by one party can lead to a smooth flow of issues.
Loss of relatives or relations
- Relationships like uncles, aunts, cousins, etc., remain strong in some families, while in others, the damages are maintained just by need but not with love, trust, and affection.
- The reason behind this is ego problems like being rich financially or in high social positions compared to others.
Losing opportunities
- Every person in this world knows something which others do not know.
- In the professional field or relationships, everyone needs others’ help to know information or opportunities around.
- Being egoistic will make others hate us, and they do not give the information.
- Or else, being egoistic, we do not approach others to know the information.
- Many people lose opportunities due to ego problems.
Yet they are unwilling to give up their egos.
Delay in progress
- Being egoistic will not win us the support and loyalty of our subordinates, colleagues, and friends.
- In such cases, they do not perform well in the team, office, or business, leading to delays in growth or progress.
- If we notice a few successful people, they are ready to give higher positions to talented people.
- They even provide higher remuneration than what they themselves draw from their companies.
Doing so made them build a great business empire. So Ego curbs progress and blindfolds the realities.
Frequently Asked Questions and Answers
What is ego in spirituality?
The thought of me, myself, and mine is the ego aspects of spirituality.
Through spirituality, one can understand that one is part of this infinite universe and is not in isolation. This helps us to be submited to divine.
How to kill the ego?
One can kill ego through understanding, having intense love and through practice of being humble.